Real Talk: Keep. Moving. Forward.

Ciao Bellas,
With the New Year beginning, this is usually the time when people are thinking about their New Year's Resolutions. For the past few years I've made some, and honestly I haven't particularly stuck to this year I've decided to keep it simple. In 2010, I Miss Fab resolve to simply be a better me. I'm resolving to step my game up because I don't know about y'all, but I'm seriously determined to get mine in the New Year. It'll be an especially important year for me academically (I'll be taking the majority of the classes that'll bring me closer to getting my degrees), I'll be reaching a milestone birthday, and there’s just so much fabulosity in store that I want to be prepared to enjoy every minute of it. Last New Year's Eve, I felt blessed to have just survived the year. I've made it no secret that 2008 was an incredibly trying year for me, I felt like I was going through hell at times, but when all was said and done it showed me that I'm a lot stronger than I ever thought I could be. Honestly I know that all the mayhem and foolishness that occurred that year, is what helped me to stand strong this year and make it through what '09 has thrown at me. Overall I'm so thankful to God for bringing me through all of that (I know that my faith in Him is what has kept me, and because of Him I can truly now say that I'm stronger, wiser, and better. So much better.), and what He has in store for the future. Last year I couldn't wait for '08 to end, just so I could just distance myself from all the drama, hurt, and pain that I had experienced that year. I just wanted a clean slate. This year I look back on as a year of miracles, and I learned a lot along the way. Some from my personal experience, some from watching the trials and tribulations of those close to me, and some are just words of wisdom that were important to me over the course of the year like...

* Sometimes you really have to exercise the gift of goodbye with people. I had to end a "friendship" with somebody that I've known since I've been born, because all of the back and forth drama that has occurred between us since...well, since about the time I was born. I have a very forgiving heart, and so I really didn't want to just write them off knowing that they've had it rough and have gone through a lot, but there came a point where it was time for me to me to call it a wrap, and roll the credits.

* It's not always what we want; it's what we need that's best for us.

* Never go looking for guys. The right and most wonderful people come along in one's life when they’re not even looking.

* Any guy worth your time will make an effort to be with you, and treat you with respect.

* Have standards and boundaries (and not just in romantic relationships).

* A lot of people talk about learning to forgive and forget. I've learned a lot about forgiveness over the past year… I've had to forgive a lot of people, and most certainly had to ask forgiveness at times. However, I don't cosign on the forget part. Forgive people? Yes, most certainly, but don't forget the lesson you learned along the way. Please note that I said don't forget the lesson, not what the person did.

* "Not that I have already attained, or am already perfected; but I press on, that I may lay hold of that for which Christ Jesus has also laid hold of me. Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus." Philippians 3:12-14.

* Just do you. Don't worry about other people, what they'll think, what they'll say, whatever when it comes to you, your style, dreams, goals, and future successes. I'm one of those people that others seem to love, or love to hate on. It doesn't really bother me that much though...for instance a while ago somebody was cracking on my academic goals, and I told them that they could kiss my diplomas. They said “BS.” I said that's right actually, one of the ones that I'm working towards is a Bachelors of Science! I'm just that kinda girl Bella's :]

* Just have faith. Pray, have faith, and hold on.

Here's looking forward to a Happy and Blessed New Year, and all the fabulosity in store. Let's go!

Stylishly Yours,
Ms. Fab

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